Welcome to another wedding post! I can’t believe it but we’re a little under two months away from getting married and it feels like we got engaged not that long ago. I made a comment that “we’re like 6 months away” when we were 4 months out, and then this past weekend I said we were 3 months out and someone reminded me that we’re actually less than 2! It’s crazy to think that time has gone by so quickly but also so slowly; Quick in the sense that we are no where near close to finished planning everything, but slow in that we just can’t wait to be married so we want time to hurry up. I thought I would share what my fiancé and I are doing right now to prepare for marriage – notice I didn’t say a wedding – and I want to continue this topic in another post! P.S. how cute is Murphy in the throwback photo?! We just gotten him the day before we took our engagement photos and our photographer was awesome and let us bring him! And my bff Meghan was the best ever and babysat him white we took our other photos!
First, we’re taking premarital counseling classes! We were so excited to start these classes and I can’t tell you how fun it has been! We’re getting more plugged in to our church, we’re meeting a lot of other engaged couples around our age, we’re talking about potential problems and how to address them before its an issue. We’re learning so much! I cannot recommend premarital counseling classes enough!
We’re meeting with our pastor once a month, and this is probably my favorite! We’re meeting with the pastor that is marrying us every month and we’re going through The Meaning of Marriage by Tim Keller with him! We have assigned chapters and discussion questions that we answer separately and then discuss them all together over breakfast. We also filled out these huge questioner forms before we even started meeting with him so he could gauge where we needed/wanted help and what we want to focus on and learn about. This is such a special time for us to really get to know our pastor and for him to get to know us. He’s actually very close to our age and got married last year so talking with him has been so encouraging!
We’re talking about the future. This one may seem like it’s nothing, but it’s really important! We talk about everything from how many children we want, to when we think we’ll buy a house to what our expectations will be once we’re married. We actually just went over expectations in our premarital class on Sunday and it was so so helpful! Taking the time to talk about the future realistically – not just about the fun stuff – is really important for us. I want to go into marriage on the same page as my future husband know that we’re both having goals in mind for ourselves and for us as a couple.
We found our amazing church and we’re joining a couples bible study group. This one has literally been our #1 priority since we started “church shopping” last year when we were dating. We visited 3 churches and visited each church 3 times. We checked out the traditional and contemporary services, bible study classes and everything we could in those 3 visits and then we picked the one that we felt we could serve the best. In our premarital class on Sunday they mentioned so casually that there will be a couples bible study starting in January and anyone could join and I think I nudged Denver maybe a little too hard because I was so excited! January is perfect timing because we’ll be married and done with the holidays so it’s a perfect fit! I can’t explain to you how excited we both are to finally have the chance to join this study together and we just hope and pray that we’re able to join a community where we can be with others who are going through this season of life together!
Engagement isn’t all fun and games so I hope these few tips are helpful to you! We’re not the best at everything but we’re both really trying to prepare for marriage and not just a wedding. After all, a wedding is like 5 hours of your life and your marriage is forever! Stay tuned for more wedding content because there is definitely a part 2 to this post! If you’re married or hope to be one day, what is something that you did before you got married or hope to do? Leave it in the comments below!
Photos by MG Photography.